What is "Sexual NPCs" Means?
"Sexual NPCs" refers to non-player characters that act according to a predetermined sexual script, rather than their internal motivations. Few people have ever been taught how to recognize their own sexual desires. The most fulfilling sexual experiences happen when we understand what turns us on, can express it, and our partner is ready to hear it.
NPC is a widely-used term within the world of gaming, and has made its way into everyday conversation. Standing for “non-player characters”, they are essentially pre-programmed entities found in video games that stick to specific roles according to a preset script, not being controlled by an actual person.
The slang acronym NPC (which, according to Wiki, defines a person who does not think independently or behaves in a highly predictable manner) may have an application to real-life scenarios such as the repetition of opinions or adherence to a script or societal norms. Surprisingly, there is a link between this definition and sexual avoidance. This realization was made upon examining thousands of responses from couples spelling out reasons why they tend to stay away from conversations about sexual arousal.
After surveying hundreds of reports of embarrassment and awkwardness, two pervasive themes emerged, each corresponding to the slang definition of NPC. Many participants reported feeling like sexual non-player-characters, while others described being treated like one by their partner. Conversations addressing sexual turn-ons, though uncomfortable to initiate, can increase sexual desire and function of long-term couples.You can also try sex doll torso to experience what it's like to be sexual NPCs.
People who mimic the behavior of sexual NPCs
Many of the concerns that arose included, “I don't know what I'd talk about, because I'm uncertain what I want.” These same people spoke of “having sex” like a mundane task, as something they “ought” to do or something they had seen in movies, instead of focusing on their personal desires. They seemed intent to fit themselves into the rigid parameters of the sexual norm—what culture dictates is appropriate or "correct" when it comes to sex. This resembled NPC behavior, where someone follows the established path of what they should do, but in a sexual context.
People who treat their partner like a sexual NPC
Several individuals had an alternate concern; they had expressed to their partner what they appreciate, but their partner either neglected to listen or heard them, yet seemed to "know more" concerning what would delight them. People mentioned that even though they kept informing their companion what excites them, their companion just wouldn't act on it, or do it for a sufficient amount of time.
It sounds like a familiar story: we may try to anticipate our partner's sexual desires, but they know what works best for their body and mind. Though they may not be able to articulate it clearly, they understand the sensations best. When we assume we know more than our partner, it's like relegating them to an unplayable character in the bedroom.
Many people display sexual behaviors that seemlike sexual NPCs?
Many of us never receive encouragement to identify our own sexual preferences, instead being discouraged from doing so. In today's sexual landscape, a heterosexual woman is frequently expected to serve as a "gatekeeper" in bed and prioritize a male partner's needs above her own. As a result, women may be taught to behave more like sexually robotic characters.
Men may not be overtly banned from figuring out their own sexual preferences, but it is not unusual for them to feel the pressure to please their female partners. Many will state that their biggest turn-on is "making women happy," but are still in the dark when asked about what brings them pleasure. This implies that our culture (media, porn, etc.) is creating sexual NPCs, conditioned to the prevailing sexual script and thus unaware of their own or their partner's turn-ons.
Becoming a sexual player character
Research by MacNeil & Byers suggests that the most fulfilling sex comes when we understand what arouses us, communicate it to our partner, and they listen. Here are some tools and strategies to empower us to leave no stone unturned in our pursuit of sexual satisfaction.
Strategies for becoming a powerful sexual character:
1. Recall a noteworthy sexual episode. What were the circumstances? What made it so exceptional?
2. Discover how you want to be touched and approached during sex. Utilize QTIP to identify the language to express your desires.
Consider that some people may find the "N" stimulating, either through RPing as a sexual NPC or engaging with one. This can take multiple forms, including fantasies or role-play in which one is "used" as an object of desire. As long as everyone involved is satisfied, congratulations on discovering a possible turn-on. Be sure to periodically check in to make certain that both parties are still enjoying the experience. Have fun!
Adopt Strategies to Treat your Partner as a Captivating Sexual Partner:
1. Remind yourself that your partner has an intimate understanding of their sexual physiology and psychology.
2. If your significant other is flummoxed about voicing their desires, inquire what stoked their passions in the past. If the answer baffles you, ask them to demonstrate. Viewing a video in tandem and conversing about it can stimulate curiosity in the topic.
Embarking on the transformation from sexual NPC to full sexual player character requires some adjustment. Despite the effort, the experience is both thrilling and enjoyable, and can result in long-term sexual satisfaction and assurance.
